Build Confidence & Silence Comparison Using These 3 Mindset Shifts

Brenda Chadambura

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“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” – Romans 12: 2

How does God want us to build confidence in Him? As a Christian professional woman, your tools and weapons for becoming everything He created you to do, are different. They are powerful and they are empowering.

In this blog post I wanted to come alongside you and give you 3 powerful mindset switches, that the Lord has given us, that I know will help you. My hope is that they will build confidence as well as a new level of strength in us, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Ultimately, my hope is that we start thriving in our identity, relationship with Christ, work and in every other area of our lives.

I am truly praying that at least one of these 3 mindset shifts really resonates and touches you, where you are in your life.

With that, here we go!

French Bistro Cafe with-Green leaves and White Block -Build Confidence With Faith Is The Substance of things hoped the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11-1

If you speak to my friends and family, they know that this is one my favorite scriptures.

It is a scripture that paints faith in the most radical and craziest ways!

And I love it!

It gives us radical and practical permission to believe in the impossible, 

with God’s presence and help, in our lives.

It is a scripture  that is literally telling us that when you partner with hope, you are giving it substance, you are making it real.

You are saying:

 â€śBecause I see it my mind’s eye and I believe it, that gives me all the evidence I need, 

to believe…despite all the physical circumstances.”

White-Envelope-and-White-feathers-with-a-White-Block-With- Believe Despite Your Physical Circumstances

That’s what faith is. 

Believing without the physical evidence and seeing it come to pass.

Isn’t that amazing?!

Walking in faith like this builds your confidence.

It challenges and encourages me, all at the same time:)!

to corroborate it or affirm what we believe.

Faith is you saying:

“I’m standing on what I’m seeing in my mind’s eye, according to what God has said,

until I see it come to physical pass. Feelings you can follow… but I believe.”

White-Envelope-and-White-feathers-with-a-White-Block-With-Believe Without The Feelings - That is Faith

I have been finding this scripture so helpful when I’m praying and believing for things that the Lord has told me are mine, in Him, but things around me are saying otherwise.

I am learning not to be affected by what I’m currently seeing or experiencing but vigilantly focusing on what I know is the Truth (making that the reality) and setting my mind and heart on that…steadfastly.

What I’m seeing in my mind’s eye has to become more real to me than what I’m seeing in the physical.

I know!  Crazy right?!

It’s not easy but it is necessary if we are to grow and step into the bigger calling God has for us.


WHAT BUILDING CONFIDENCE LOOKS LIKE FOR YOU: 

It might look like: you now know who you are in Christ. He has shown you.

Perhaps He has clearly shown you, you are a leader but you don’t feel like a leader.

That’s good! 

Your feelings do not get to dictate the Truth. 

What He has said does!

Embrace the fact that you don’t feel like a leader 

AND be the leader anyway!


You will find that your feelings will follow

your belief, and not, the other way round.

Your feelings are subject to what you choose to believe!

It is actually a really empowering way to live, don’t you think?!

And Lord has given it to us.

Strengthening our resolve will also build confidence in us as women of God.

So why not try it out this week,  in something you know God has been encouraging you about? 

Step out each day this week, believing only, (without waiting for feelings) and watch how your mind, heart AND circumstance, begin to transform, right before your eyes:)!

French Bistro Cafe with-Green leaves and White Block - Build Confidence By Saying Good for them when you see others succeed

Build Confidence By Celebrating Others And Yourself

This statement is something I instinctually learned to use since I was teenager but I believe it was a mindset that I think the Holy Spirit deposited in me, without me realizing it🙂!

This statement, is one of the best ways to slam the door shut, in the face of comparison…in other words…

 envying others.

I cannot tell you how many times, when I see someone doing their work so brilliantly or growing a beautiful garden or whatever it is, and that if a little voice of…

“Oh they’re so talented.  Why can’t you do it like that?” tries to speak to me, 

I literally say “Good for them!”.

I genuinely mean it when I say it and I say it with a strong voice.

And it changes everything!

What you are saying, in that moment, is…

“Good for them for the gifts they’ve been given!

I’m not them!

I am me and that’s good!

I am moving on…to my own gifts that I have been given!”

It silences that voice immediately.

White-Envelope-and-White-feathers-with-a-White-Block-With-Refocusing On Your Gifts When You see how gifted others are

How it kills comparison & builds confidence.

When we are fixated on other’s people’s talents or accomplishments, we suddenly feel small.

There is a belief in us, that takes over, that’s saying…

“There’s only so much talent and accomplishment to go around. This person has it all and I have none.”

That is far from the truth.

That scarcity mentality is the work of the enemy trying to make you believe, 

The truth is…

God in His wonderful grace has given us ALL talents and gifts that He wants us to use and exploit to their full potential.

It’s all in His grace.

But we blind ourselves from seeing the greatness He put in us when we become so fixated on somebody else’s greatness.

White Envelope and White Feathers - we blind ourselves to our greatness by fixating on other peoples greatness

However, the moment you say…

 “Good for them!”,

you literally stop that mental train, dead in its tracks of comparing yourself, belittling yourself

 and denigrating yourself and; your mind refocuses on the magic God put inside of YOU!

The moment you start focusing on what you DO have in Christ, you build your confidence.

It’s amazing how well it works!

Try it the next time you find yourself comparing yourself to somebody else.

When you do, you’ll start seeing:

  • new creative ways of doing things
  • gifts you hadn’t noticed in yourself 
  • your own distinctive style emerging
French Bistro Cafe with-Green leaves and White Block - Build Confidence through the scripture "Greater Is He That Is In Me Than He that is in the world - 1John4-4

The full scripture says:

This scripture is referring to discerning of spirits and having faith that the Holy Spirit, who is in you, is greater than any false spirits.

I find that so comforting, not just in terms of discerning false spirits but in every area of life, including building my confidence.

It means…we are not alone!

I am not alone, in this world.

I have the Holy Spirit in me and He is greater than anything in the world.

The same Holy Spirit power that raised Jesus from the dead, lives inside of me.

WHAAAAAAAAAT?! – Romans 8:11

French Bistro Cafe With White Block -  recognize that the same Holy Spirit power that raised Jesus from the dead lives inside of me - Romans 8:11

Isn’t that amazing!

I asked The Holy Spirit why He wanted me to share this particular scripture and He said because He wants us to know that…

He is very near.

He loves us.

We are not alone.

We are mighty in Christ.

We are His Beloved.

He wants us to interact with Him every day, understanding how great and powerful He is in us.

He is encouraging us to take the posture of ones who are truly powerful in Him and not feel like orphans.

We are not posturing ourselves in arrogance but posturing ourselves as His beloved ones. 

This posture builds confidence, creates intimacy with Him and it glorifies Him.

Truly taking ownership of that…because it pleases Him.

Knowing that we are not aimless, weak or abandoned. 

We are walking in love with Him.

We have the privilege of walking in intimacy & friendship with Him.

We are walking, LITERALLY…

  • in His power, 
  • in His wisdom, 
  • in His love,
  • in His strength, 
  • His joy, 
  • His grace, 
  • His favor 
  • and His provision.

How amazing is that?!

Think about it…

You are working in your office, constructing that important email, you’re doing it, believing that the presence of His wisdom is right there with you?

“Holy Spirit I’m partnering with Your Wisdom right now. Thank you for giving me Your words.”


You are speaking, and you feel a little nervous, you trust in His power in that very moment and; speak in His power?

“Holy Spirit I’m partnering with Your Power right now. Thank you for giving me Your boldness.”


You feel invisible at work, you lean into the truth that you have His ultimate favor and walk in that?

“Holy Spirit I’m partnering with Your Favor right now. Thank you that I am completely cherished by you.”


He loves us and wants us to live, every moment, knowing that, tangibly in our lives.

By the way, if the idea of walking with the Holy Spirit is somewhat new to you, please don’t be stressed about it.

If you have accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, then His spirit is in you.  Interact with Him, the same way you interact with Jesus.

French Bistro Cafe with-Green leaves and-White-Block-With-a-Quote-On-Your Confidence Is Emerging

Moving forward, I hope you feel mentally, emotionally & spiritually stronger. 

Armed with new ways to believe for the impossible,  stop comparison and walking intentionally and; intimately with the Holy Spirit, who loves us.

  • You are not alone.
  • You are not talentless.
  • You are not powerless.

  • You are powerful.
  • You have limitless potential.
  • You are beloved.

I’m hearing a happy song playing in my head as I write this:)!

Perhaps let’s all take a moment of thanks…for who we are and what we have in Christ Jesus!

Hallelujah!

I’m Cheering For You Darling Friend…Always!

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